It takes one decision, amongst many doubts; to reach your ultimate goal in life. But distractions create a long distance, between you and reaching your destiny…

Living life entails making many decisions on how to live it; but making decisions doesn’t happen easily as it seems, for there are millions of doubts to sieve through. The difficulty that lies in making decisions is intertwined with the avoidance of mistakes. People want to appear perfect to themselves and others; thus, they fear or fail to make certain decisions so as not to appear imperfect or amateurish. Yet, avoiding risk is a risk itself; for one may never know when the rainbow will appear in the sky. Not making decision is a decision itself, for silence is as well an affirmative speech. Growing up, our parents, guardians, teachers and wardens made the crucial decisions for us; which made obedience our only decision. Then, if you decide otherwise; it becomes disobedience and arrogance. But some of those decisions made us who we are today, whether we liked it or not; they laid the foundation upon which we make our current decisions.

The first orientation a child receives is from home. Any place can be a home, it doesn’t matter if the child lives with the parents or not; for even an orphanage is a home to orphans. There in the home, a child mostly observes and learns. A child may only be like his father, if he is trained by his father. A child cannot behave like his father because of common biological connection; if there are no similar trainings, such a child is independent of his father’s psychological and sociological traits. Yes, they may look alike; but it doesn’t justify that they may act alike. Physical and biological traits are different from psychological and sociological traits which are impacted by environmental traits. The environment matters a lot in the upbringing of a child, because of its heavy influence on the behavior of that child. Timidity is an avenue for intimidation and abuse; and a timid child is a product of a negative environment. Contrary to this, a smart child emerges from a positive environment; therein, the child has mustered the courage to face his/her fears. Upbringings leads to growth and development, and depending on the one a person underwent; the influences will determine to an extent on how he/she makes decisions. Of course, change is constant; but some people may never change, for few feel superior while many feels inferior.

Fear of mistake is a mistake. If not, how does one explain being consumed with fear of what is to come, when what shall come shall come. You cannot say it is a mistake, if you don’t make that decision or take that risk; because nonchalance is a loss to chance. Thus, if you don’t make or take it; you may never make or take it. You lose chances when you don’t take chances, but that doesn’t mean that you should act upon every chance you get. Before you make a decision or take a risk, it is wise to reason it; so as to avoid being taken by the risk nor marred by your decision. Nonetheless, no matter how careful you are in making a decision; it doesn’t rule out the possibility of being wrong. You are human, you are prone to mistakes, you are vulnerable to doubts; but none of that should stop you from a making a decision. Regardless of the outcomes; if it is your decision, you won’t regret it much, but rather learn from it. Doubt is a normal human instinct, a cautious guideline of consciousness and the center of cross-checking.

The Oracle once said “If in doubt, check and cross-check.” Doubt gives you room for a deep reasoning of a particular person, place, situation and event. It is only in moments of doubts and deep reflection, that a person questions and answers him/herself. Never you jump to conclusions; without checking the contents, making necessary calculations and verifiable consultations. The Oracle said “If you’re not sure, don’t shop; to avoid been shocked or shot.” There can be no doubt in your mind, whenever you want to make a decision; and you certainly don’t need any form of distraction as well. Force of any form requires focus; for if you don’t get your mind into the game, you risk losing your head. Be sure before you decide, then let fate show the dice; because life is gamble. If you don’t choose, others will choose for you; that is the history of bad leadership in Africa. Negligence is worse than doubt, because hesitation is a delay in relay. The Oracle said “If you don’t pay for it, you will neither play nor replay it.” Learn to entertain doubts and be clear from them before making decisions; but never allow doubts to becloud your judgement of people nor blur your vision of things, because doubts kill decisions.

Distraction is the worst of anything; killer of destiny and master of all delays. There’s no denying that distractions are sweet sometimes if not most times, but they’re slippery too; and many have slipped away from their goals in life. The Oracle warned “Distraction is of the devil, run from her with all your might; and pray to the almighty.” It is not easy to stay away from distractions; but if you don’t make that decision to stay away, you risk straying away. Be it family, partner, friend, colleague, addiction, habits and events; never you allow distractions to determine your destiny. You know your distractions, but sometimes or most times you ignore them; so as to bathe in carelessness and indulge in foolishness. If you take stock of your life right now, you may realise how distractions have retrogressed you; if not almost relegating you to damnation. Distraction is personal, so only you can save yourself from it; and the weapon is discipline. Distractions run from a determined disciplined personality, because there’s no room in his/her mind for them; only doubts penetrate unrestrictedly.

 Yes, they will say that you’re wicked, that you’re selfish, that you’re neither sympathetic nor emphatic and that you’re inhuman. They will say all sorts of things to get you to stray from your way; but if you’re right, don’t mind them and stay away from them. Be you and stay confident, because distractions steal success and cause disasters; they’re detractors of destiny. Be disciplined enough, so as to be able to decide that enough is enough; and act upon it without doubts. You don’t need the validations of other people to vindicate you; if you don’t justify yourself, you may not get any justice. Run from anyone or anything that is a form of distraction to achieving your destiny; for it is better to banish them, than to blame them. Blame yourself only if you allow distractions to derail you; because if you don’t allow it, it won’t arise. You know what is best for you, so never let anybody tell you otherwise; except when you know that you don’t know the details nor the destination and in need of guidance. In case you’re wondering about your distractions, let me clear you: “Anyone or anything that is not of help to the realization of your dreams is a distraction; and if you’re not careful, they will make hell your destination. Help in this aspect must be positive and not negative; to build and not to destroy, unless you’re also of the devil. But even the devil seeks progress, that explains why the number of her followers are multiplying on regular basis. The Oracle posited, “If you only do the biddings of others and not your own; when they arrive at their destinations, they will only bid you farewell as they depart from you.” Success surrounds itself with success so as to attract more success; because failures can fade away glories and ignite agony. Hence, if you don’t work on bettering yourself, don’t be surprised when they walk away from you; but before you blame someone else, blame yourself.

Dearly Beloved; it is alright to have doubts, but very dangerous to have distractions. Doubts deepen your reasonings, while distractions derail your resolutions. Thus, it is better to have doubts, because many things are not as they seem; but safer to run from distractions, because they’re disastrous. Consequently, inhale confidence, and exhale doubt; while at the same time exempt yourself from distraction. Your destiny is yours alone; and if your dream is to be successful, you must be ready to strive for it with all your mind and might. Lastly, pray to God to save you from yourself; because your greatest battle is with yourself.